Congratulations Rei! I totally agree with you and just would like to echo and to give you a heads-up once your baby is old enough to enter a hoikuen - despite the bully at workplace, it's better to plan some additional time off. During the first 1-2 weeks of hoikuen, to help the kids gradually get used to hoikuen life, the schedule is usually cut into very short stay (Minashi-hoiku). During this stage kids can only stay at hoikuen for 1 hour a day and slowly increase to full day. It's not rare for some shy kids to spend 1 month in this minashi-hoiku schedule. Following that, as most kids had their first exposure to many new germs/bacteria brought from other kids, most kids will get ill almost once or twice every week in the first 1-3 months. As a result at least one parent needs to take whole day off because sick kids are not allowed to enter hoikuen. As your kid grows older, pray they never got injured. My 3 yr old son recently broke his arm and has to wear a cast for 1 month. Not surprisingly he was not allowed to enter hoikuen until cast is removed, even though he can perfectly manage himself to eat or change clothes and no extra care is required from hoikuen. My wife and myself had to take long leave to take care of the kid at home (it's my peak season at work so you can imagine how my boss' face looks like). There are just so many occasions that you have to have a full time parent at home to take care of all kinds of surprises. I can't imagine how dual working family can handle this.
Government taking control of private businesses and enforcing less hours will not be a good outcome. Having more government in anything further ruins society, no matter the country.
Now that you're a dad, you should have learned this by now. Reality will not treat your family well by hoping and simping for socialist/tyrant ran states
You’ve really hit the nail here. My experience is exactly this- the system is not geared to making child rearing easy, especially trying to be a participative working father. I was bullied in the workplace for leaving at 5:30 to pick up my son, spent most of the evening doing baths, feeding and then straight to calls with the US. It was not unusual for me to fall asleep mid call. For women, it is much worse with hierarchical relationships at day care and high societal expectations.
Yeah... It angers me so much that so many Japanese managers still see paternity leave as vacation. Especially since their old asses never changed a diaper in their life
"and public hospitals do look like they’ll fall apart at any moment."
Man, you should have had your kid up in Tohoku. My wife gave birth to our daughter in our local public hospital in Tohoku, and it was the nicest hospital I have ever been in.
Haha damn, you lucky bastard! But you are right, public hospitals have a timeline when the building has to be demolished and replaced, but until that date, they'll just let the old building wither
Congrats bro! That’s huge :) You’ll be a great dad if your content is anything to go by :) We have a very odd quirk here in Sakata whereby if you put a child under three into a public kindergarten or nursery school, every other child below that age MUST also attend a (not necessarily the same) kindergarten or nursery school. Which is why my 10 month old is in nursery school. Besides that though, I think the system here is fair enough!
Wonderful news! Congratulations to you and your wife! Great analysis, too.
Congratulations Rei! I totally agree with you and just would like to echo and to give you a heads-up once your baby is old enough to enter a hoikuen - despite the bully at workplace, it's better to plan some additional time off. During the first 1-2 weeks of hoikuen, to help the kids gradually get used to hoikuen life, the schedule is usually cut into very short stay (Minashi-hoiku). During this stage kids can only stay at hoikuen for 1 hour a day and slowly increase to full day. It's not rare for some shy kids to spend 1 month in this minashi-hoiku schedule. Following that, as most kids had their first exposure to many new germs/bacteria brought from other kids, most kids will get ill almost once or twice every week in the first 1-3 months. As a result at least one parent needs to take whole day off because sick kids are not allowed to enter hoikuen. As your kid grows older, pray they never got injured. My 3 yr old son recently broke his arm and has to wear a cast for 1 month. Not surprisingly he was not allowed to enter hoikuen until cast is removed, even though he can perfectly manage himself to eat or change clothes and no extra care is required from hoikuen. My wife and myself had to take long leave to take care of the kid at home (it's my peak season at work so you can imagine how my boss' face looks like). There are just so many occasions that you have to have a full time parent at home to take care of all kinds of surprises. I can't imagine how dual working family can handle this.
Congrats.
Its the culture that rewards work more than children. Thats all. It will lead to demise of the country like Korea.
Government taking control of private businesses and enforcing less hours will not be a good outcome. Having more government in anything further ruins society, no matter the country.
Now that you're a dad, you should have learned this by now. Reality will not treat your family well by hoping and simping for socialist/tyrant ran states
You have a child too? 🤗
You’ve really hit the nail here. My experience is exactly this- the system is not geared to making child rearing easy, especially trying to be a participative working father. I was bullied in the workplace for leaving at 5:30 to pick up my son, spent most of the evening doing baths, feeding and then straight to calls with the US. It was not unusual for me to fall asleep mid call. For women, it is much worse with hierarchical relationships at day care and high societal expectations.
Yeah... It angers me so much that so many Japanese managers still see paternity leave as vacation. Especially since their old asses never changed a diaper in their life
Congratulations!
"and public hospitals do look like they’ll fall apart at any moment."
Man, you should have had your kid up in Tohoku. My wife gave birth to our daughter in our local public hospital in Tohoku, and it was the nicest hospital I have ever been in.
Haha damn, you lucky bastard! But you are right, public hospitals have a timeline when the building has to be demolished and replaced, but until that date, they'll just let the old building wither
Congrats man!
Congrats bro! That’s huge :) You’ll be a great dad if your content is anything to go by :) We have a very odd quirk here in Sakata whereby if you put a child under three into a public kindergarten or nursery school, every other child below that age MUST also attend a (not necessarily the same) kindergarten or nursery school. Which is why my 10 month old is in nursery school. Besides that though, I think the system here is fair enough!
Haha it's a very rigid system indeed... I feel very bad for the babies born in November having to attend nursery in April the next year...
Yes! Ridiculous! But it is what it is. NZ is strange though, you can start school on your fifth birthday… if you feel like it!